Going Down Hill

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The last couple have talks have been about the relationship. I know everyone says that is a no-no. But I think I am finding out a lot. In not so many words the wife is blaming the failed marriage on me. As she said she was trying. I asked if maybe you were just trying the wrong way. She would have none of it. But I'm starting to realize that she does not feel bad for anything she did as well. We would have sex maybe 2 times a year. Something that really bothered me and was discussed to great length. So much so that I quit trying to initate sex b/c I could not stand to be rejected anymore. She even brought up a couple trips that we went on together without the kids that were really sore spots for me. We went without the kids. I was hoping to have fun with her and connect. She basically ignored me the whole time. She said she did not feel like she wanted to be close. Isn't that her choice not to be loving when she knows what it means to me? Do I really want to be in a relationship with someone that doesn't want to take care of my needs? I now realize that I did not take care of her's. But I'm willing and trying to change that.