I am posting here to learn more about DBusting techniques in a situation where H is almost 2000 miles away, in the midst of MLC and an A. I am reading everyday and moving forward while trying to protect myself financially.
I am not being defensive but right now I am emotionally fragile and my self esteem has taken a beating. At this moment; I am trying to focus on what to do rather than what was done wrong.
What you do is focus on yourself... your needs and desires.
If H is in crisis nothing you did or didn't do landed him there. And nothing you do will bring him back. So every decision you make now needs to be based primarily on what is best for you, on your own.
Building a new fulfilling life is task #1. It won't be easy, and it will take time, but you can do it. Please be kind to yourself.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
