Ok, so as mentioned in Claire's thread and a couple of others I kicked my self in the a$$ and went and filled the wheelie bin. It's recycling this week too.

Seems you can save $ real easy if you do have a massive sort out, I found in the book shelf a couple of books I was sure I owned and could not damn well find.
Don't give up Paul Hannah
The dance of anger (one I had no idea I owned but do now recall reading it when my h1 was really angry)
And the kicker from h1, boundaries in marriage, complete with underlines and all!

Oh dear oh dear! On the upside I don't have to buy anything to read.

Just glancing threw the boundaries book, might start the anger one.

M 46 h54
Both married before
T 11y
Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads!
Ms 18 hs 26