Inside my chrysalis 6

[gan]

Hey Ss, Sorry to hear that you've been going through a rough patch. I think a lot of us here struggle with the feeling that our WAH may never put in the work. But that's a hypothetical question and the answer doesn't matter at the moment. What matters is you getting YOU back on track.

I struggle with the self-indulgent/selfish feelings, too, and so far haven't ventured down the mani/pedi/facial path for the same reason. I finished reading Passionate Marriage a couple of weeks ago and there is a great quote in there about how relationships go well when both partners drive themselves forward. Never mind the "both partners" part, reading this gave me permission to do what ever it is that I need to do to get a hold of myself. The future of my M depends on it!

Some of my best GAL activities have involved volunteering. In addition to me just feeling plain old good about helping others, the people who benefitted from my contributions sent wonderful vibes of appreciation! What volunteer opportunities are there in your area?

I don't remember - are you doing yoga/mindfulness meditation? Sounds like that could be useful for you too given the thought overdrive. My IC recommended that I commit to a daily practice as a way to deal with a whole range of issues (including reactive communication, which I recall talking with you about a while ago).

Are you still living in the marital home? I just moved into a new place and although I initially dreaded the prospect, it has done absolute wonders. I feel like a new person; I'm operating from a new place. Could you consider moving and starting fresh? I realize that may be a little more tricky to do with D7 in tow.