Continuing DBing after the affair

[PeterV2]

Thanks for your words of encouragement Starsky & Jefe. Your support is truly heartfelt.
Tonight I spent the evening with my W working at the RH. I was upbeat and she reflected that. She even danced a little. We got a lot of work done and after I left and got home she texted me saying how much she appreciated my help and how much better she feels. And she blew me a kiss good night.

Man from one day to the next it's like Jekyll and Hyde.

At least I try to remain consistent.

I told her I'm going to drop out of hockey so I can spend the time with her. She told me not to because she may have other stuff going on and then I'll be sitting alone at home. But I think she appreciated the gesture. She's talking as if she's planning on moving back home.

I've told her she should get her own apartment once we sell the RH. So she can have space to breathe and find herself. But I think she's shying away from that. Funny - I give her the freedom - tell her to move away, and she starts talking about coming home. This 180 stuff is amazing.

I must keep up with the "no pressure" mentality. It seems to be working and I think is the only way. And I'm really detaching. I try not to let her occasional spewing deter me, although I must admit yesterday did get under my skin. Thanks for extracting me from that funk, Starsky & Jefe.