How many of those divorced parents from the previous generation, whose kids went on to have similar problems, put in the kind of work to themselves after BD that you have? Most just blame the other person or throw their hands up and just say it wasn't meant to be. My W's mom (left by her H for OW when my W was 12) just called him a pig and held on to the resentment forever, to this day (17 years later). All of the multi-divorced aunts and uncles of mine just think it works until it doesn't, then you move on. they don't see any other way to live in marriage.
You're putting in the work, you can educate your children about M and other things you've learned, and someday you will be able to demonstrate your new knowledge and skills, either with WAH or another lucky man.
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
