Wife in denied but ongoing affair, what to do???

[blndsid]

In the last day and a half a few things have happened, but nothing major on the W front. I've stayed busy with odds and ends work. No snooping, so that is good. Got call from W yesterday that school called and S5 was sick and needed to be picked up. Luckily the deadbeat dad was at home and could do that (lingering bitterness, trying to release). He has a sore throat that I now know is pharyngitis.

I woke up about 2:00 am this morning and a few minutes later S5 came in my room. He threw up a few times in our trash can, but then settled down and kept down his juice and then meds. We just sat there and talked for a while, about hard times like being sick and how he needs to learn to take deep breaths. Listened to a few songs and he decided to go back to bed about 4:00. Got up at 6:30 and have been going ever since. It was nice to just talk to him. He's very bright and remembers everything I say to a fault. Smarter than I was at that age, though I didn't talk until I was 5, funny enough.

Minimal contact with W except about the boys. I did get a call last night to set up a j-o-b interview next week. It is more of an entry level job, pays about what I make working part time but would be full time with benefits. I work with the agency now as part of my consulting work, so I figure I am a shoe-in, but I won't count that chick 'til it hatches. I know they promote from within and they will have an increased budget for employees and managers once the project I am working on is finished and bought by them. Snuck the news into a text about the boys. Wife said it was "awesome" and asked when the interview was.

Otherwise, I met with a good friend of my dad for lunch today, really his best friend and my godfather, to discuss the D options. I'm currently leaning away from doing it right now, as the only reason to do it NOW would be to preempt her, and I don't know what she'll do next week. Talked to a lawyer friend and he felt filing first had advantages, but said in my situation it was minimal in the big scheme. However, he did say I should be ready for some really nasty things to be said/made up about me. The wife doesn't have much of anything on me, so he figures they will throw the kitchen sink and all at me in vague terms. I have nothing to hide, so whatever. I have been a little bummed this evening, and hope I can keep a PMA when the W gets back.

Anyhow, W didn't call to talk to the boys tonight but her brother is with her in Chicago tonight and tomorrow. Good for her. I'm still reviewing things in DB book and reading other related threads to think on the D decision. I'm going to make a list of reasons for and against and see what that looks like. I never thought I'd be to this point in my life. Damn it all.