Roberta - I would very much like to. I need to get some financial ducks in a row.
Anyway, I'm having a hard time deciding what tact to take here. Am I the LBS at this point? Or do I have responsibility in playing into her possible feelings that she was recently LBS?
I have been placating to keep some peace, but I also feel like this plays into my "nice guy syndrome" (Also reading No More Mr. Nice Guy as suggested on another thread). I feel like I should be assertive, not controlling or demanding, but assertive.
I keep reading others say "don't leave the bedroom, don't leave the house," and that's what I want to do. If she wants to leave, then it's on her. I know, however, in my sitch, this will cause gnashing of teeth from her.
I need to gain / earn respect back here. I'm willing to work on the M / R. I'm working on myself, absolutely. I'm also ready to accept her at her word and GAL, LRT, and move on, although I don't want to.
Last night she said she didn't want me to sleep on the couch and welcomed me in bed. We weren't affectionate, but this morning as I got ready in the bathroom, she came in and gave me a prolonged hug.
Miiiiixxxxxxeeeeedddd signals.
I recently said, after our argument on Tuesday, that if she wanted space that involved us rotating in the house for the kids, I would be open to that.
I've now rethought that, and I don't want to leave the house at all. In fact, I don't want to leave our room. If she wants to leave, she's welcome to.
