All I can say is that your expectations appear reasonable, especially if backed up by the laws in your state. If you keep your emotions in check, you look like you have a good chance. As to what should be your moral compass, think of you and the kids and not what impact it will have on her.
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"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
