Folks, I still love my XW. I had a decent cry, decided yet again to hope. To DB, to make myself better every day. I choose to believe, to pray.
Something tells me that this is a decision the long-term LBS makes frequently.
I'm glad to hear you have a renewed sense of hope and purpose. Your XW is lost right now - but I would be willing to bet there will come a time when she begins to ask herself questions and will be open to viewing you as you really are and not just through the distorted lenses she is wearing now. Good for you.