Moving towards mediation, need to stop limbo

[shodan]

re: lack of transparency...I think it would take me a lot longer to trust her fully without it. I am OK with that actually. My one issue is that if she still is having some contact with him, then I know her feelings for me will not come back. That is my biggest concern because she told me that she is "waiting for her feelings to come back" before she can fully commit to our M.

re: MC...we have discussed it but she does not seem to be a fan. She has friends who have gone and she said all have found it a waste of time. But I think the MCs were focused on the past, their parents, etc.

Thanks again to everyone for the advice and feedback.