Hi Ahoy. Don't beat yourself up because your down. Everyone one on This forum loves the WAS to some degree or we wouldn't posting. Most of the stories seem to be along the same lines and whatever the causes or who's fault is was to what ever degree we are the ones who have been left. From what I read of everyone's post not one person seems to be unable to change and become better at an R. I truly believe our WAS will not bet better off without us as partners but that is no conciliation to us. My own W is crying daily and has told kids she is making a huge mistake. She is home everyday and my house has never been so clean BUT she does not seem to want to comeback to me. I can tell from your posts your are a great person and I honestly had a thought to jump on a plane from Dublin to fly over to give you that hug LOL. Joking aside I actually teared up reading your post. Please know that while I have no wisdom for you, I do know what you are going through and it's horrible. Your H is a fool and that's clear for all on here to see. Take care of yourself and your D and one day you will be happy again and I hope it's soon.