Need help. Scared, confused pt 3

[Jefe]

You have me in a corner. I have no valid excuse. Yes, it is annoying. A lot annoying, actually.

I will look into the time, process, and cost of having it removed tomorrow. I will add this to my amends list to her.

My wife has never mentioned it again since before we were married. She has mentioned plenty of other things.

"I honestly think if you both enter into marriage counseling you will find she has felt extremely unloved and believes you have not valued her feelings in this relationship"
I know this to be true. Now, how do I heal the damage I have caused? (I fully understand the 12 step approach and I am working on it starting back at the beginning)

"I don't think she has been trying to 'stick it to you.' "
I don't either anymore. You have been making that more and more clear the last few days. The statement was just reflecting back what I thought you've been trying to get me to see. I am totally rethinking my view of her. I now see her as someone that I have basically punched in the face and every action she has taken since then has been a self-preservation move or a cry out for me to see what I have done. To validate her pain and brokenness at my hands.

My sponsor and I are working towards the steps. I called him today and asked him to please help me do this a little quicker. The W seemed very interested in the fact I was working the steps several weeks back but my sponsor and I have been a little slow to connect on this. I am so tired of living this way. I am seeing my selfish, self-centered part in this. I'm seeing me, and I don't like what I see. I want to be the husband that my daughters think I am because I don't want them to marry a man like I am right now.

Hope, Thank you for helping me.