Continuing DBing after the affair

[PeterV2]

Well, looks like we sold the RH. Five more weeks.
W says end of an era. Not sure if she means running the RH or our marriage. I didn't want to ask as that would be pressuring.

She asked what I thought our chances of saving our marriage were. I told her 90 to 95%. I didn't ask her opinion (no pressure). But if I was mind reading it would be less than my estimate. Now she's saying she checked out of our marriage after the first year. Keeps rewriting history. Claims it as fact.
She says I'm just self-absorbed and selfish and shouldn't be in a relationship. She says she gave me her all and I didn't reciprocate. It's hard to don my spew jacket when I feel so demoralized. She thinks that I think I'm superior to everyone. I tell her I feel like a failure sometimes.
She says I'll never change. That she cannot see growing old with me - that she won't be taken care of.
Sad state of affairs. Yeah, I'm getting demoralized. Gotta fight to keep up the PMA. I can't show her my mood. Not attractive.