Maybell XVII

[Zues126]

Thank you all for the kind words. Goat Gal, really glad to see you on here again. Your story about your ex and porn was a huge aid in my quest to conquer this habit. It has not been easy and I had one backslide about a month ago, but I didn't use that as an excuse to give up or keep down that road because I remembered your words vividly. Good reminder that we can all make impacts for each other.

Zimmy, great points as well. Some people feel being friends is allowing them to cake eat. But I trust the DB coaches. I think the key is to remain mysterious, not always be available, to let them experience the positive and improved you without letting them have all of the fruit. For women this seems easier actually as most men need the physical side to feel truly fulfilled and connected. I don't see a man ever feeling satisfied with a good close emotional friendship wih a wonderful woman he was previously intimate with. For me and other men it seems tougher, I feel like if I'm there for her emotionally that would have been her ideal marriage anyway. I know that's not quite true, but ou get t.

But my point is to be friendly, but not give them the whole package. Kind of a tease. Follow the 90% rule. However friendly they are, be 90% as friend back. This ensures that they see you reciprocating goodwill, while not pursuing, letting them set the distance a bit, and leaving them wanting just a little more. That's like ending the conversations first, etc.

As for healing, I get it. Not easy. Ill let you know when I figure that out. But for me it's more important that I act with character than that I feel good. I've said it so much you all can tell I cling to that mantra. You can be proud of your actions. I have to believe it is the right road and will take you to a higher ground. Have to.