Mighty, you described it very well. This is what I’m feeling too. I also started thinking about moving, if it would change things for me. But, I like my house, I love the kitchen cabinets that my son built. I don’t even see H in this house anymore. And I like my neighborhood and most of my neighbors . So, I am on the fence about it. The good thing is I still can afford to stay in the house on my own, so no hurry on the decision here.

I have a dream that in a few years, when my son is older and wants to start a family, I could leave this house for him, and get me a smaller place somewhere close by. He will have to pay the mortgage, of course.

Thanks for inviting me to visit with you. I feel a great connection to you. I went through somewhat similar experience with my first xh, the father of my son. I know the pain. He was officially dating a young girl while he was still married to me and our son was 4. I mean “officially” dating, he presented himself to her parents as a potential fiancé and was taking them to the doctor’s appointments while refusing to do this for my son. There was no sign of him leaving the M yet. I suppose he would do BD on me later, but I caught him cheating and kicked him out. He tried to come back later, but I was way over him.

If you are ever in Southern Cal, let me know too. I will take you to the vacation home for a girls weekend out!

M:50
H:52
S28 (my S from previous marriage)
M:17 + 3
BD: 06/12
S: 06/12 - H works in another state