Well, I'm definitely not a vet at this, and have had similar confusions as you have regarding physical contact and such. Just an outsider looking in, I see cake eating. She wants you as the back up as she goes out all night to carouse around. Now that you are pulling back and detaching she feels that and it bothers her that you may not be there as the back up should she want to come back.
I'm in the boat that you should stay in the house, maybe in different beds. I'm in the same bed with my WAW, but I sometimes think I'd sleep better with her on the couch. However, there are plenty of DBers out there who wish their WAS was in their bed at night, so I try to be careful about what I wish for. However I don't think living apart would help my sitch. I give her space when she's in the house, even told her she was free to go out when she wants as she's an adult. But having her stay out all night, knowing when she does it's to swill 3x the beer she would have before this started, and getting home at 3:00am, rubs me wrong for a mother of two.
HOWEVER, what we need to know about is how you were the WAS 5 weeks ago. She might be justified to jerk you around (maybe) depending on what you were doing. What did you mean by saying you were the WAS? Fess up. We might beat you up, but promise no bruising. . .
Me: 37, W: 36 S6, S3 M: 8 T:11 Discovered 1st A: 9/3/14 Began DB: 9/20/14 W "ended" 1st A repeatedly Discovered at least 3 more A's, filed 10/29/14
