Yes, she wanted the divorce from my ex to happen ASAP. We had been together about 7 months and had been courting a little longer and she wanted kids so bad. She was ready to settle down, with me. I wanted it too. I just procrastinated about the divorce (It gets me in trouble with her a lot, I mean A LOT) and never explored it. I have a tattooed wedding band and she wanted it lasered off... Yes, you are pretty much spot on.
When she left, I pursued her HARD, and ended up pushing her away. So, I worked on me (not far enough, though). She called me about a month or so into her new relationship and wanted to know how I was and let me know that things were going poorly with new guy (5 years younger than her). She wanted him to go to church and he flat refused. I took this as an opportunity to get my foot back in the door and started to send flowers, and cards. I visited her mom at the restaurant she worked at and had dinner (Mom always like me and didn't care for new guy) up to the point when new guy called me to scare me away. Didn't work.
She was going to stay with him but he refused her and she didn't try real hard. She was only pregnant 4-5 weeks and we got back together Jan 24, 2007. She ran back to him (Feb 3) because she was confused and I wasn't fixed all the way and tried to reconcile it with him but he denied her. She went into deep depression because she thought I hated her and didn't want her and that she had destroyed the relationship totally. She could't believe that I still loved her and wanted her (her words) and we were married May 25th.
This is the same guy she just had the inappropriate EA relationship with. IS she using this to get my attention?
On the outside it seems dumb, I guess. The dynamics and how we got together, I mean. I never stopped loving her and I guess from what your saying, she loved me from the beginning to. I just couldn't see it until now that you pointed it out. Wow! I freaking blew it!
Yes, I see now that I broke her heart and I want desperately to heal her wounds. I want my marriage and I want to value her and focus on her needs and not mine.
If I understand you correctly, you are asking to to totally let go of my hurt and how I "think" I was wronged and just love on her and heal her. Forget all of the rest and focus my energy on what I've done, only.
I'm in.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
