I also sort of feel like she is giving me positives to warm me up to the idea that we can have an amicable divorce, be friends, etc.
I feel like as long as I am going the direction she wants, then she will play nice, but if I don't, then she is going to throw a fit. I also feel like she's playing me that if I resist, it is further damaging her trust in me, or that we can reconcile.