I completely assume that she did not know we were still together when they got together. When I asked him (when I found out about her) "Does she know that you are married?" he said "She knows I am getting a divorce." which I think is his way of not saying that he has always presented himself as separated.

I doubt she is coming to visit family and friends of her own, she's from VA and they live in PA. She doesn't have anyone on the west coast that I know of. Of course, that *could* be possible.

Given her age (I think she's about 25-28 from her looks), she very well could have whined and kicked like a baby. Who knows. It just shocks me how fast he is moving with her...

Me- 40 H- 41
S8, D5, S4
M 19 y T 23
Bomb drop 6/2013
H asked for/filed for D 9/2014
22 yo OW discovered 9/19/14 they're engaged and living together