Ok, I have slept on this and thought this over. I know it may go against DB rules, but I am going to have a chat with H. Trust has been broken, he has not earned it back. I can't turn a blind eye when he is living in the same house, yet going out all hours or weekends away with people I never heard of. At the same time, to choose to not make any decision one way or the other in regards to M.

I just can't do it. I have my limits. Now that someone has been in my house, that is way way way too close to home. I know I don't have proof of OW, but either way, my heart, gut and his behavior is enough for me to know that this is not working for me.

He has 3 choices. Talk to someone to sort out his feelings. Talk to someone together with me. Or get out.

I am not expecting a good reaction, he will not be happy. I don't care. I am done walking on egg shells and trying to talk myself into dealing with painful behaviors, to just be patient. Maybe I can do that, with him OUT of the house. I can't have it in my face, day to day. Now with strangers in my house and more lies. Not happening. Having someone in my house has really really spooked me out. In a normal M, normal situation, this would not be a big deal. With my H and his actions lately, I'm not feeling right about it.


Me 48 H 46 S 11
M 2004
BD 8/13
H moved out 2/15
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