She has changed so much in the short time she has gone to school there and without supervision she may just go too far.
And chances are SHE is going to continue to change. IMO, she may not want the supervision and may be enjoying the new found “freedom”. IMO, YOUR job is to have clear as day boundaries with her. The more freedom you give her….the more she will take. Remember…you are parenting her for the future – not just for today. In my sitch I clearly allowed more than what I truly felt comfortable with – I justified it. The reality is that I was afraid to lose my daughter. IMO, that fear will keep you stuck doing things that YOU do not agree with.
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I think it's great that she talks to me about these things and trusts me enough that she knows I won't overreact or freak out but I'm also worried about her and miss her very much.
It is WONDERFUL that she talks with you about these things… WONDERFUL. Cherish every moment of it. It’s normal to worry – that worry though is YOUR issue – not your daughters. Keep being the rock that she can come to…to talk about anything she wants to. Do not freak out…but do not be afraid to tell her your views…or better yet…ask HER how and why she thinks/did X. Teach her to THINK…teach her to learn about HOW and WHY she may feel this or that….those lessons Matt…she will take with her for the rest of her life.
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This is such an important time in her life and she really needs me to help her not make mistakes. I know how much more trouble I would have gotten into without my dad around at that age. And with her mom just not that interested in what she's doing or worse, not caring, she really needs a stable force around.
It is also the time that you need to let her go a bit…. Keep showing her how to think on her own, how to make and own her choices.
Keeping moving forward, keep your chin up buddy. You are doing great! I know that job and finances can be a bear to deal with….remember……at some point, the storm will subside…and the sunshine will come out.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
