"He did during that initial conversation. He was remorseful for what he put me through."
No he wasn't "remorseful". He was REGRETFUL. Regret is when you're sorry you were caught. He regretted the fact that you caught him with his hand in the cookie jar. True remorse is when the WAS does everything they can do make things right with the LBS, ON THEIR OWN.
"Still hasn't. I think enough time has passed where now I should find a few counselors and let him pick one from a short list.'
No you shouldn't. It should still be an action that HE does.
"Also a few weeks ago I made a comment about how distant I feel from him. It was during sex and it just came out."
Seriously? Sorry but guys will promise and say anything during sex. It's not sincere what he said.
"Which seems like such a silly thing. I don't really need to be his FB friend, I am not on it much and I don't think he is either."
It's not a silly thing. Don't EVER discount what is important to you.
"But it is the whole idea that he says he wants to be with me and work things out and make things better. But even the simplist little thing, like accepting a friend request, he refuses to do--and his reason is "because you can't make me"."
Tell him that you can't "make him", however because of his behavior, you don't feel safe and don't feel that he can protect you and your feelings while he has a secret life. If he makes fun of you, look him dead in the eye and tell him that he will not laugh at your feelings again. Then call a L.
"I think maybe it is time for me to push the counseling issue.But then again, if he uses lack of time as an excuse then it just proves that I am not a priority."
Bingo. He doesn't care about you. Just himself.
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Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
