Is this normal?

[Hoju]

I think you are asking a very important question and it's something you're going to need to work out for yourself, we are here for you with what ever you decide. If you're not ready to move on the don't, it's still fresh for you. Yes, everyone here has experienced exactly what you're feeling, often multiple times, daily. No it is not callous to throw in the towel, she pushed you into this, you didn't choose it. The choice of when or if to stop fighting is entirely up to you.

You're going to hurt no matter what you do. You've just lost a loved one, you will need time to grieve that loss.

Part of the point of GAL and detaching is so you don't go insane waiting. This is why it's so important you are doing things for you and not for her, as cadet said. If you like swing dance and it's something you want to do then great but if your just doing it to try and get her to notice or make her jealous you wont be happy.

I know it's hypocritical of me to say this since I struggle with the exact same things so much in my sitch.