Still back and forth on the D filing decision. I want to work on things but I also think it would get her attention and make her realize I'm serious about not living in an open marriage. Not sure how else you hold that boundary without some sort of act of defiance. Confronting her about the A obviously doesn't work. It just makes her angry and more spiteful. D filing might do the same, I guess, but I bet it would shake up the fantasy world she is living in now. I also like that it would theoretically allow me to control the pace of the proceedings. I'd delay it if she showed signs of actually wanting to work on the M, instead of working on how to hide the A better.
I know I need to work on me and that's what I'll re-visit. I know I could be more patient with the boys, and I made a conscious effort to address that starting this week. I also need to show more confidence around the house. I think ending the snooping and dwelling on the A will help out with that.
Me: 37, W: 36 S6, S3 M: 8 T:11 Discovered 1st A: 9/3/14 Began DB: 9/20/14 W "ended" 1st A repeatedly Discovered at least 3 more A's, filed 10/29/14
