You need some advice from a vet or a DB coach. I know the money can be hard to find, but a coach is cheaper than a D.
My coach relayed what she call the DB mantra, but I cannot remember verbatim so maybe a vet can correct me where I am wrong. She said the mantra is:
"I do not agree that a long term separation and or divorce are the solution to our relationship issues. I understand you feel this way. I will not stand in your way, but I will not help you."
The words she used were much better so hopefully someone can correct me. But the essence of the statement is to state you beliefs and respect their's.
Wish I had more to offer.
M:34 XW:34 Together: 10y Living: 9y Married: 7y Son:6 Son:4 Separated: 12/28/13 Piecing: 5/2/14 Separated 2nd: 10/16/14 W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14 papers served: 1/27/15 D final: 3/6/15
