I agree with what Lisa said, but I would add that you can mention to your daughter that nothing that is discussed has to be final for a time, that you just want to hear her thoughts and concerns and that she can come back to add or retract at any time until it's time to actually make plans.
I'm sorry you're in this place but so impressed with your PMA.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15