I feel your pain regarding your daughter. I am attending a DivorceCare group at a local church in my area and they discuss issues involving the children. I have found this group to be of tremendous help during this nightmare. The group follows a set curriculum for 12 weeks. Churches around the country hold these groups. It appears that churches have a session in the fall and then again in the spring.
Me: 54 H: 58 Married: 29 years Together 33 years H admitted to A: 5/29/14 H moved out :6/15/14 OW lives 4 hours away and "occasionally" stays weekends with H D23 D18