Moving towards mediation, need to stop limbo

[shodan]

some journaling...yesterday I went to yoga with my W. On the way there, she mentioned this super thin woman who goes there. She is to thin frankly and my W expressed come concern for her. Then she mentioned that the woman "checks" me out in class all of the time. My W said "I did not get mad at her when I saw this, I just smiled at her." I thought this was interesting...she noticed another woman looking at me.

Then, when we got to yoga, this woman whom we see there a lot smiled at me and said "hi". My W said "she is totally into you. Well, you are a lot of work, so she can have you." She said this with a smile, not as a criticism. I laughed and said "that is pretty funny b/c I am not a lot of work. I am pretty direct and easy to read, as are you." I then commented that it is ironic that we are in this situation since we both are pretty easy to please and like the same things. I said "we both like to travel, we both like sex, good wine, chocolate and coffee." I then commented that I am getting all of that now except the second one. She smiled and said "maybe you just need to work a little harder to get it."

So confusing....

Then, we both discussed how non-confrontational we had been about our issues. Her parents NEVER fought and my parents do ALL of the time. So, when we first met, I tended to express my feelings often. My W did not like this and said "we will not fight like your parents do." So we stopped arguing for the most part but as a result, we never expressed our true feelings, desires and wants due to a fear of an argument. We both agreed that we need to do this more and state our true feelings.