So, dreading tomorrow when H comes "home" to be with the kids. He hasn't checked in with me or given me any information on when he will be here or when he is leaving or where he is staying. I only know he comes in tomorrow night and goes back east on Monday night. Not sure if he is coming here to our home to stay over any of those nights and, if not, when he will be here on Friday to do the pumpkin patch thing (and then high-tail it away from me, I'm sure). I want to reach out and ask him what the plans are so I can make my own but I'm trying to do a 180 here and having a precise schedule is what he is used to.

At this point I have made plans for Friday night and Saturday which can go into Sunday if I want them to. They are flexible, though, so if he wants to do something else as a family I can entertain that (not likely to happen).

I'm debating about Monday... 2 of the kids have school that day. I, of course, normally get up at 5:30 and get them off to school, take care of S3 and then pick them up from the bus, do homework, make dinner, baths, etc by myself. H says he would be available to do that. Part of me wants to "make" him, show him all the work I do each day that I resent that he's just leaving ALL to me for the rest of my life. The other part says to act nice and cool and friendly and ask him if he wants me to be here to help with all of that and go by what he says. The issue I have is, if he wants me to get up and get them off to school and then he leaves me alone for the day until I can help again with the afternoon/night stuff I think I will really resent that and feel used. Any opinions on how to handle that?

If you pray, please say a prayer that I handle myself in the best way possible on Friday and through any and all interactions with H this weekend. Thanks!


Me- 40 H- 41
S8, D5, S4
M 19 y T 23
Bomb drop 6/2013
H asked for/filed for D 9/2014
22 yo OW discovered 9/19/14 they're engaged and living together