Rev, Given what you've said I wish you all the best in possible reconciliation. I can imagine they go through some crazy emotional process to lose a friend, W's OMs. So I hope that this isn't limbo you are in.
If you are about to ETS from the service in a year or so, I'd recommend finding a job on the other side of the U.S. This doesn't guarantee that an OM will never show up again, but it'll make it d**n hard for the current ones to reappear.
Me:30 W:34 M:8 T:9 D:9 D:4 D:3 S:4 S:1 D bomb: 8/2014 S 12/2014 PA Confirmed in 3/2015 if I recall correctly