Do I walk away from WAW? (2)

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Definitely great advice. I'm definitely not seeking to have convos with her. This seemed like a good time to say a few things to her, however, and I really think I delivered a solid message. I resisted every opportunity to argue with her or call out her thinking, which is basically BS at this point. I made no assessments or judgments of what she plans to do, nor did I point out that she really has no plan at all. I didn't argue with her when she said she has an "emotional connection", she still can't directly reference OM to me, which I take as a good sign somehow, and I did not refer to him at all. I merely told her that I was working on myself, and I do believe she sees those changes as genuine and is happy to see them. She even said "I love you, I believe in you, you are going to do good, and you will always have me." I realize that hearing that is a lot more than others here get from their WAS, so I can be grateful.

Where I am obviously still miles from my goal is: she needs to somehow reuse that she is going to lose ME. I have no idea how to send this message aside from continuing all of my DB efforts that are working, and being much better at not bailing her out with support when she needs it. Otherwise I am stuck. The holidays are coming and I suspect we are just going to "act normal" thru them. Her family astounds me. They have just disappeared. I usually see a ton of her family over thanksgiving/Xmas, we have all sorts of regular annual traditions. As of now, I'm planning on attending these, powering thru with max PMA, enjoying the time with them (we all get along) and my kids, and maybe just maybe they see a better picture of what is going on here.

I had to work late today, and W grumbled a bit that it would cut into her study time. She is starting to get stressed with due dates for assignments coming up, and I sensed her trying to put that on me, even though she's been going out plenty of nights to supposedly do work. I said I would be home as soon as possible and that I'm fine with her taking whatever time she needs. Just trying to stay out of her way. When I got home, she left without taking her bag of books or the laptop. So incredibly in the fog! I'm planning for a hectic morning without her.