Trying to stay patient- part 6

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Maybell- pretend it was something else he was doin that you agreed with. Say he had to visit a friend of his in the hospital with terminal cancer and the kids were upset he wasn't around to play. You wouldn't feel the same and wouldn't probably be supportive when the kids asked.

What's best for the children? I don't have an easy answer. Not sure if you say he's doig his best to take care of himself, and that he loves them, but validating that it is tough...then explaining to your H in a non guilting way that the children have needs and you wanted to let him know so this necessary seperation doesnt impact them more than needed, that your confident he can be on his own and a great dad as long as he is aware of the situation...that you will always be on a team to raise the children and recognize that you need to step up too to ensure they are ok and remain close with both parents, and if he has concerns about your parenting he can voice them.

Not sure if this is appropriate. I'm a newbie and haven't been faced with this. But I do think if you're actin out of compassion and with the best interests of all parties in mind it will be better than being coloured with resentment.

Ask a DB Coach!!! Or 25- are you around?