You ask a question that is frequent among newbies or fairly 'older' newbies.
Originally Posted By: Card29
Just for clarity, what is the common understanding of "dropping the rope" around here? I thought it meant to give up on the M completely and file.
Using the voice of Sophia from The Golden Girls...
"Picture this...Sicily 1920's....you and W are all happy and sappy in the M. That is until one day, W ditches you and wants out of the M. You panic like Groucho Marx and want to hang onto to W. The rope is looped around W's waist and you're keeping her on a short leash through your fear, anxiety, and insecurity by constantly temp checking W with questions, comments, and whatnot or looking at her direction to see what SHE does or doesn't do.
Dropping the rope means you're not hitched to W's wagon to put it in a simplistic way. It means you are not emotionally attached to what W does or does NOT do. Dropping the rope means you don't care if W serves up Sicilian dish or Tuscany dish. You don't caaaaare if she serves it up in a marina sauce or not. Ravoli...okay! Penne..okay! Tortellini..okay! Whatever.
Capisce?"
Holding onto the rope isn't giving your M the best chance to be reconciled. It is the exact opposite. Drop it and things will shift. Trust me...I've seen it happen in nearly all of saved M.
It just means that you're not constantly looking at W's direction, trying to read tea leaves, or looking for smoke signals.
