Should I wait and see, or move to file first?

[shodan]

Sorry to hear about your situation. I am not vet, just a novice struggling with similar issues. This issue is very new for you. Less than two months since the A was discovered. I do think filing for D seems a bit premature. Also, I would not base your decision on what your W might do. You need to do it because you want to. I understand the legal side, but I personally would wait. You and she appear very angry. I have read that the right time to file for D is when you are not emotional. Don't do it to get a reaction out of her. Do it because you want the D.

What are other options? What about you? Work on yourself. Become a better man and father. Detach and GAL. Do some 180s. While I know that is hard, it seems a better place to be than filing for a D (unless you really are done).