Ok everything is set for the move. Wife has been chatty with me the last couple of days. Had a conversation last night where she went and looked at a horse. (she used to be a big horse trainer and barrel racer till injured). We had a place out in the country and got a couple of horses but I had placed a bigger concern that a fall would paralyze her with her back already so messed up. Anyways focus soon became on oldest son riding horses and resentment grew. we talked about how much we have learned since then and I did a great job validating her issues then and now.My 180's of not feeding into things and being defensive have been noticed and has affected her responses as well. Sure could have used this knowledge and ability before. Anyways The conversation then turned to good memories and laughs at our time up there involving horses. She told me the boys cant wait to see me and that they have really missed me. S4 has cried off ad on missing his daddy. So small progress but progress of any kind is good. Its a marathon not a sprint. Ive been doing a better job of detaching and other family members have noticed a change in that as well. Only real moment I had was her sense of urgency for me to get up there for that first weekend in November. She at first said it was for work but she works days and her mom watches the kids already while she works so its easy to try and wonder what she really has planned. I squashed it after realizing what I was doing and instead I am thinking as if its just she really wants the kids to see their dad. .....thanks for reading.
Me 38 WAW 40 S 10 S 5 M 5 years BD 10/04/14 S 10/04/14
