Wife in denied but ongoing affair, what to do???

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Went to see another ATTY today. Since W has set up an appointment to see an ATTY too I am thinking I should go ahead and file first.

W has been ticked off lately, before last night, about how I keep finding her hidden affair. She shows no signs of stopping, and only tries to hide it better. Last Friday she was sending the texts to OM1 and OM2 as mentioned before. Said she made them to be as awful as possible to hurt me if I was reading the texts (I wasn't). She quit going to counseling, saying she was never asked what time worked for her. Mind you, one session I went to that she skipped, she made time to get out and go shopping with her mom. That's dedication.

It was my now final snoop where I found she was changing OM hotel rooms so he'd look like he was flying in Wednesday, then saw the email where she changed it back to Tuesday. I'm not hacking or anything, very easy way to snoop that she has never thought about. Anyhow, she showed me his room change to Wednesday as proof he changed his flight. I checked his itinerary and it showed he'd printed his boarding pass for Tuesday. I told her I have that info, but she's out of her mind.

Anyhow, it was during this final snoop where I saw an email where she scheduled the appointment next week. I had scheduled for this week but cancelled after our talk Monday, but knowing she has the appointment I went there today anyhow. All these things add up to me that she doesn't want to work on the marriage but instead she just gets mad that I call her on the lies.

Considering everything I think I am going to call them to file this Friday, while she is still gone. Not sure how she'll react, and I still hope to save the marriage, but I can't sit by and get beat to death either, right? I would explain the D could be delayed if she went to regular counseling, scheduled by her of course. But that would be forcing her to go, and I don't know if that would work or help. Thoughts please?