i think im missing some of the background context here but from what i can see your best bet is to validate the premise - if your try and block progress on things like this it will just come accross as manipulative and controlling.
I'm not saying rush and sign all the paperwork but you have to meaningfully engage in the process that she initiates otherwise you saying you dont respect her viewpoint.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
