Nicely phrased, MrBond. (I can't say that without putting on a Russian accent in my head). May I ask, were you always able to phrase things like that…and if not, how did you train yourself? That sounds like a stupid question but I find my reactive communication style gets in the way of this type of exchange; I'm trying to make changes in this area to improve all my relationships (personal and professional).
Sorry for the hijack Little! As for you - good exchange with the BF earlier. Regarding your comments, and your perspective that you don't get the opportunity to defend, why do you have to? You were there. You lived it. It was your reality. You don't need to defend that to him. David Schnarch talks about self-validation vs other-validation. It's difficult to observe our S's re-writing history but that will only bother us if we rely on other-validation.
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014
