"Sometimes snippets of those things said float back to me and I get upset I can't give my side of some of the things he's saying."
Tell him "I see. I don't recall it being like that, but I'm interested in seeing why you might think that."
Usually that throws the WAS for a loop because you're not flying off the handle and being emotional. It throws the ball back into their court and makes them have to "think" about what they just said and whether or not it makes sense.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.