H's MLC #5

[woundedfool]

I made adjustments so he will not be too cold, and I will not be too hot. It's now up to him, I have no plans on bringing it up to him again about where he sleeps in the house.........

I'm not going to put any more energy into that issue.

I think you missed the point on experimenting.....

Its not an all or none proposition, that required a wholesale change and to "throw the baby out with the bath-water"

You need to SLOWLY peel back things and see the results (and watch if they are positive or negative). For example:

First close the window.... see what happens (monitor results)
A few nights later, don't spoon.... see what happens.
A few night later... have the window open, and don't spoon.... see what happens.
A few nights later, no fan, window open, don't spoon... see what happens.
Note the days of the week this happens, maybe this is on nights he likes to watch a certain sport or event, or he has early meetings the next morning.

I'm going to work on letting my H know I desire him I love him, by speaking his love langauge of touch and compliments..going to expirement with small touches, compliments, hugs etc,,,and watch his response. I will go very slow...going to speak his love langauge for a while and watch reactions...

All sounds very good, but I really hammer the go slow part, this may or may not yield any result. That's why you go slow, and monitor for any change.

Try certain touches/hugs/compliments at certain times of the day.... See what happens.