Fresh separation - trying to play by the book

[Zimmy]

Mozza: that is the worst. You know, at the beginning, when i was trying to be wonderful and we were having a great time together and I could see progress towards me, I was motivated and more relaxed and it was easier to be cool and patient. But when he started to backpeddle after seeing her or grew distant again, it got so draining that I got more and more fed up with his behavior and confusion. You know I wonder if at some point, if you want to preserve your love for her, you almost need to cut her off as much as you can and turn her loose. If she finds her way back later, once she has had a chance to miss you and see what the alternative world is like, then you know what you had is real. Otherwise, I felt like I was putting myself through the ringer for someone who was ambivalent (wrongly) about me. This is the most awful cruelty and none of us should have to endure it. What is wrong with our spouses that they think they can treat their families and loved ones this way????

I don't know. No one wanted to save our relationship more than me, but also, I feel too much and it's hard to truly detach when you are interacting with them and all you want is for them to come home and be the person/best friend you remember.

I just burst into sobs at my desk writing this. I am so sorry we all have to go through this with somebody we love - it's heartbreaking.