It's funny how I just told BigMac that it's a multi-year process and that it's not over until he chooses so, yet I can't apply this reasoning to my own situation.
It's easier to be rational when you're not emotionally invested. That's why some people that can be objective and give GREAT advice to others are pretty bad about taking their own advice.
It's also why people here talk about DETACHING. I remind myself nightly that what and who BF is doing doesn't matter -- he's out of our R and it's none of my business.
You'll get there. What we're going through isn't easy. It's painful and it's emotional. Be goal-oriented and mindful of your actions, but kind to yourself when your humanity shows itself.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
