The truth is that I see H very rarely. If you added up all the time we have spent directly interacting with each other since BD - it would be less than 90 minutes in 3 months and we have had maybe 5-6 emails of substance. I coach soccer so I can't miss - and D6 needs him to come to her games - but last time (his first game) he didn't sit with any of the other parents. I really just have to keep my cool during the actual exchange which is very brief. I can do that. Yesterday was just a little too fresh.
We will need some sort of help to co-parent (counseling, etc). For example, right now the girls come back from his place completely exhausted and I have a terrible time getting them up for school in the morning - but I don't think we're in a place where we can even discuss this safely.
You know STBX is a cop. For years he has come home with stories about domestic situations he gets called to - and of course one of the frequent ones is people cohabiting with affair partners and exposing them to kids too early, and he has always been very judgemental about it. Its a sign of how far gone he is that he apparently thinks this doesn't apply to him.
