Rebuilding 1 step at a time

[Mozza]

Thank you so much for coming back to share your experience. I needed to read that this morning. In the newcomers' section, a lot of us a grappling with the most difficult moments of the separation, often the part where things get worse before they get better. Few people come back to share their positive experience, it seems, probably because they moved on.

I think I need to give up the strict definition of full transparency that I'm holding onto and appreciate that H is trying to show me that he wants to be here.

Giving full access to my email or getting similar access to my W's email is unthinkable. We all have our secret garden, a space to think, communicate with others. It would just lead each of us to move our thoughts elsewhere. That your H has private thoughts, perhaps doubts, hurtful feelings, etc. does not mean he will leave you. It means he's human. Don't get yourself into a situation where you regret asking too much of him. You're on the right path.

I really hope your piecing will continue so well and that you'll update us regularly. Many us need to hear a good story, as we make our way through the rough parts.