Frustrated by all the defense I'll never get out. I've validated his feelings and admitted to my crap but some of his accusations are false and unfair.
Hi Little, Thanks for dropping by my thread the other day. I'm on to you now!
I was fascinated by your phrase above. What did you mean by that?
I've heard his point of view about what his issues with me in our R were. I've admitted to my piece, validated his feelings about them, apologized, and told him there's a lot I'd change about the past and if I could go back and do things differently, I would.
That said, some of the thing he's said to me when discussing why he feels our R is "just done" bother me. I know his truth is his truth, and it's valid no matter how I feel about it. I know I'm not supposed to believe what he says when he's lashing out, because he's only focused on the negative right now. BUT, I'm an emotional human being. Sometimes snippets of those things said float back to me and I get upset I can't give my side of some of the things he's saying.
To give one example, he told me there was no affection in our relationship, which I feel is seriously just plain BS. I'd never tell him that, because it would be counter-productive, but I can list sixteen different ways we were affectionate on a daily basis, and it bothers me he's just pretending those things didn't exist.
I guess I feel stirred to defend the good things we shared, as much as I can't/shouldn't/won't.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
