Just because the D happens does not mean it has to be the end, it just moves on in a different way.
Originally Posted By: Little
Also, Mac, it's not over until you decide it is. If that's what you truly want, to let go, then that's fine. But it doesn't have to be over during (or even after) a D. Anything can change at any time, and your behavior can help or hinder that.
That's right. Another DB-like book I read, also advocating to go with the flow, says that divorce is just a piece of paper. I understand it's an important piece of paper, but it's not the relationship. You said at the outset that this would be a multi-year process, so it's still your call how you want to go about it. You can hang in there, go through this rough period and keep the faith. Or you can make the choice that things are hopeless, that moving on would be the best for all involved. You still have control over your side of the relationship.
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
