Raliced - Climbing Without a Rope

[Shakspr]

Whatever happened to shame? I am being serious. These MLC/WAS/affair-having spouses of ours seem to have none.

I'm sorry, but "keeping up appearances" isn't a phrase with 100% negative connotations.

rali, I'm with you. From the heart. Pray, meditate, do what you must. Do your best not to lose your cool.

You might consider, for now, not co-attending public events with H. If it's your time, and he shows, there's not much you can do. But I wouldn't spend time around him when I wasn't required to do so. Bringing the affair partner out in public before the marriage has had a chance to resolve naturally is classless. I know that's judgmental. I haven't done all the Boundaries study I want, but it seems that there are some ways to manage this without crushing your personal PMA.