I am so sorry to read this. Hearing her name and this situation becoming more of a reality must be so hard. I have no advice for you except just a big hug.
Me: 40, W: 40 M: 15, T: 18 D - 10, S - 7 D announcement 6/7/2014 A discovered 7/20/2014 (but denied by W) Still living together and sharing same bed
