Next time she says you have to let her go. You might say something like you decided to walk a way from the marriage and family this has nothing to do with me letting you go. No vet here but I think going LRT dark is a good strategy for you to keep your sanity.
I am curious what the vets think as my sitch is a bit abnormal. I am fine taking things slowly. I said two very clear, concise things to her that I have had on my mind (my next relationship, and that my changes are for me and permanent). I'd like to let those stew with her a bit.
As far as not making the decision for her, and letting reality "sort her out", I have followed that to the best of my ability. Asking her to move out six weeks ago was my last ditch effort to assert my independence, and was before I began DBing. Since then, I have left it up to her, and that's where we are now, with no sign of her leaving.
I feel good about our conversation. She didn't really make much of an argument to me, just said these empty sounding things about her own path, having a wild heart, emotional connections, etc. I guess the flip side of becoming a man only a fool would leave is, sometimes the fool just leaves.
M: 33 W: 33 M: 9 T: 10 3 S's: 8, 6 and 1.5 BD: 8/3/14 Living together
